Thursday, June 18, 2009

You're gonna miss this...??? REALLY???

So, maybe this is me just wallowing in my bad experiences yesterday, but I'm hoping this is one of those stories that will be funny someday (certainly not today), or at least good ammunition against my kids when they grow up!

So, the day began with a lot of good intentions. I was planning to do some Father's Day shopping and then head to the mall to let the kids get some energy out and have lunch with friends. We got to our first destination and the kids were whinny since we weren't looking at things that interested them, but it wasn't too bad. Once we got to the check-out they were both starting to freak out a little, but we were still surviving. We got to the door to head out, and of course, my cart set off the store alarm. So I had to stay put until they could ok me to leave the store and James ran out trying to get to the parking lot. So I had to abondon the cart for a bit to go rescue him before he got ran over. I got back in the store and finally found someone to help me and made it out to the car. While loading everyone and everything into the car I realized I'd left half my merchandise at the register. *sigh* So, anyway, we finally make it to the mall where the real adventrue began...

Lunch went fine, the kids actually ate and stuff, so after our friends left we headed down to the dinosaur playland for a bit. When we'd been there about 30 seconds James pooped, so I scooped him up to go change him and he starts throwing a complete fit, complete with his famous high pitched scream. The other mom's were looking at me like, "hello, can you control your child". Beth was mad too since I made her come with us to the bathroom, but I had it fairly under control. Of course, we make it to the bathroom and the one with a changing table is full, so we're waiting in the hall, James wailing and Beth whining. I realize Beth is walking around bare foot and make her put on her shoes, which begins her tantrum. So, at this point, both kids screaming their heads off, I decide to forgo the diaper change and just head to the car. The tantrums really pick up when they realize we aren't going back to dinosaur land. Oh, and did I mention I had forgotten the stroller? So I had no way to contain my screaming monsters? So, we walk through the mall while I half drag, half carry my two wailing children. We had parked by the food court, so we had to cross through the food court to get out to the car, at 12:30 in the afternoon, so it was crowded of course. Beth took to clinging to any object she could get her hands on to try and stop my progression out of the mall, one of the big mall kiosk things, a high chair that she managed to drag half way through the food court, and worst of all, the chair of some poor stranger trying to enjoy his lunch. All the while screaming bloody murder into the poor guys ear. Mostly yelling "LET GO OF ME" at the top of her lungs. People probably thought I was kidnapping them or something. I was mortified! Everyone was looking at me like I'm a horrible mother, except the few knowing smiles of a few moms. I manage to pry her off and drag the kids into the parking lot, realizing at this point that James is still barefoot, oh well. By the time we get to the car we were all in tears, and the kids were literally hoarse from all the screaming. It was awful. We proceeded home where the kids were locked into their room for nap time for about 3 hours. I needed that long to calm down. I still had to work hard to speak to Beth calmly about it when she got up. I've vowed not to take them any where ever again. Obviously, that's not going to happen, but I sure have no desire to take them anywhere any time soon! I swear I discipline my children, I swear I try and teach them to be good. I do, I promise! I don't know what the deal was...I've dealt with plenty of tantrums, I mean, I do have a 2 and 3 year old, but this one takes the cake so far. Oh the joys!

7 comments:

Jon, Amber, Caleb, and Skyler said...

I am so sorry Di! I am just glad I only have one of those right now. I know what you mean...they flip a switch and you would swear you either beat them or never discipline them. Feel your pain...

Trenda said...

Ohh, I could tell you story after story similar to the one you just told. Here's just one, that you haven't heard. I went to the post office a few weeks ago, put the kids in the stroller so they wouldn't run around and open and close (slam) all the locker/mail boxes (which they usually do). So, I am in line, trying to get everything together, cade is pulling ambrees hair (and really messing it up) Of course she is screaming because of it, he is laughing. They both have their shoes off and are throwing them at people in line, Cade then proceeds to grab ambree around the neck, while I am trying to talk to the guy at the counter and deal with them and everyone is staring. Anyway, I was soooo mad when we finally got out in the car and we all left in tears! I feel your pain, and yes, I do dicipline all the time too!! :/

Tiffanie said...

I think it may take a little time before you look back and smile at that one:) I always wonder after these experiences why I even take them anywhere! Usually we have these moments when we are doing something fun for them. If only they realized that if they were good we would do it more often. Rob thinks I am so lucky to get to play with the kids and take them fun places---I dread those activities because I know it is going to be extra work and stress for me. Plus why do seemingly angelic kids turn into beasts while in public? The photographer the other day looked like she was going to cry because all 3 of them thought they were so funny and were everywhere. We gave up on a group pic---all I wanted was one smile from all 3 for 2 seconds... I usually just smile at other moms and hope they know we all go through it:)The older ones always say "you are going to miss it"...

Carrie said...

don't you just love those craptastic days. sometimes that is the only way to describe them. don't worry about other people. I warned my SIL once that if you judge - it WILL come back and hit you in the face. Now I tease her for judging too many other people's parenting skills with her... trials. :)

jennybrum said...

Soooo sorry! Just know you are not alone, my friend. We all understand!!!

Nicole said...

Ohh how I have had one of those before too. The most recent being when we were leaving the zoo from JoySchool graduation. I hate days like that. Funny thing is I was just thinking about this and how they are all phases. I think Jillian is finally out of her screaming phase, but I am sure there will be a new 3 year old phase real soon! Bummer!!

Sharla said...

Been there! And it is NOT fun! Those are the times when you really don't appreciate the sweet advice older women give about missing these days. I'm pretty sure they aren't talking about THOSE days! But, then again, we'll probably forget them and tell young moms what a joyful experience we had raising our kids too. ;)